A venture into asymmetrical relationships
written 2022-11-28
Hi! My name's Paf. Or Ashley, either works. If I've sent the link to this page directly to you, great! I'd like you to carefully read all of it - potentially a few times over. What followers are a list of personal desires and requests. Engage with as many or as few as you are comfortable with. That may be all of them, that may be none. I recognise that I'm asking for something weird and non-standard which may be outside the comfort zone of a lot of people.
If you've stumbled across this page by chance, that's cool too! But keep in mind that it was originally for my close friends. If you start treating me the way described below, out of nowhere, I'll probably get spooked and try and distance myself from you. If you'd like engage in this way, ask! Otherwise, this post may act as grounds for you to start articulating your own needs and desires.
The short of the matter is that I want to be more like a dog, and I wanted to be treated less gently.
My explorations in the furry and pup play communities have resulted in a lot of introspection. The further I keep digging into myself, the more social conditioning I tear away, the more dogness I find. A friendly, playful, enthusiastic, affectionate, optimistic puppygirl.
I feel like I need to address the fact that this is a blogpost. It could have been multiple (in-person) conversations with several close friends. However I've decided to write something up instead for a few reasons:
"Treat others how you would like to be treated"
This old addage absolutely does not apply here. I'm asking to be treated like a dog. Some people reading this might also like that, but I fully expect some of you do not want that.
Cuddles, head pats, back rubs, scritches, massages and more. I honestly adore all of it. Being held by other people makes me comfortable, and makes me feel close to them.
For cuddles, I love holding them longer than "normal". It takes me a few seconds, a few breaths, to properly relax into someone else's embrace.
It's not degredation, and shouldn't cross the line into being demeaning. I'm more than human, not less.
Nah